Counselling

Counselling is excellent for just getting something off your chest. In fact a good counsellor will know when to keep quiet, not interrupt, not interpret, not question, just listen to exactly what you say and let you get it out.

This is excellent for venting frustrations or for when you feel no one would or could listen to your side of things. However once you have got things off your chest, most counsellors are trained to Not give advice or solutions. Instead, most of them try to get you in touch with your negative emotions. This in my opinion is the wrong way of working. You need practical solutions and you need to be able to resolve and get Rid of the emotions that were troubling you.

I have many ways of doing that. The solutions I suggest are not telling you how to live your life: I help you to work that out for yourself. The solutions are how to control your own mind and emotions, so you not only feel better about things, but you are in a much better state to be able to deal with them in the outside world. And whereas counselling can often take quite a long time or even be ‘ongoing’ (ie. not getting anywhere fast but the counsellor ‘keeps trying’ -and receiving your money) my work can often be very effective and surprisingly fast. I do in fact charge quite a lot more than most counsellors, but I believe that most of my clients get far more value in a much faster time.